out of the silence

Hey guyssss

Will you guys take just a second to do something for me?

All you have to do is click the link here

It’s not spam, I promise :P

It would mean the WORLD to me if you guys could help out. Reblog to spread the word and such. Thank youuu<3

I love you!

~Shey

It was the same person. But he is my step dads brother. I have no proof. No one will believe me. I don't want to destroy my family. I don't want anyone else to know what happened.

Anonymous

If you get a rape kit or go to the hospital immediately they can take samples (if he wasn’t using protection).
It’s always good to report it. And even if it did cause problems in the family, it was NOT your fault.
HE was the one who chose to do what he did. He deserves any consequences that come about from his actions.
~S

A few months ago I told my friend that I had been raped. He sat with me and talked to me while I cried for an hour. He was so supportive of me. But he made me promise if it ever happened again I would call the police. Now it has happened again. And I don't know what to do that will make everyone ok for everyone.

Anonymous

I’m glad you were able to confide in someone. If it was the same person, and you KNOW who it is, please report it. It’s always good to report it anyway because it can help prevent it from happening from anyone else. Talking about it is good because it helps prevent the onset of PTSD.
~S

Is anyone online?

Anonymous

Yes

i can't. i want to but i don't know how. if i come off of anon do you think we could talk?

Anonymous

Of course <3

i need someone to talk to but i'm too much of a pussy to talk to anyone about it

Anonymous

talk to us, love.

Thank you guys so much. You have really given me so much strength!

Anonymous

Aw anytime! Much love!!

How do I...tell someone I trust what happened? What do I say if they don't believe me? What if they want to tell someone else? I don't want to hurt them.

Anonymous

That’s one of the biggest steps to take and the hardest.
They should have no reason to doubt you.
I’d suggest talking face to face-over text or through the internet can lead to problems and miscommunication and such.
If you don’t want them to tell anyone, they shouldn’t.
~Shey

What is the other advice blog you guys run?

Anonymous

It’s a Self harm problem blog. Url cuttersoftheworld.tumblr.com

I wish he had killed me instead.

Anonymous

No!

No no sweetie, no.

Why do you wish that? You didn’t do anything to deserve it.

He’s the sick one. I promise. <3

S

If I come of anon, can we talk for a while.

Anonymous

Yes! <3

The Don’t Be that Guy Campaign created by Sexual Assault Voices of Edmonton (SAVE). The campaign puts the blame squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrators.

http://www.theunexpectedtnt.com/2012/01/partial-success-dont-be-that-guy.html

I need help dealing with my triggers. My strongest trigger is a well known TV show, its so popular I see GIFs on my dash and hear my friends quote it constantly! I feel like I can't get away from it and when someone mentions it or I see it I start to fall apart. I just don't know what to do :(

Anonymous

Well that’s definitely hard since it’s so spread out. If you’re comfortable talking with your friends, maybe tell them not to mention it or talk about it so much. It wouldn’t completely solve the problem but it would make it less at least.

I’m not really sure what advice to give other than maybe take a few deep breaths when you see it and try and remind yourself that it isn’t real life and it’s not actually happening, they’re actors.

Also, I know that there’s a Tumblr extension where you can block certain posts from showing up on your dash, I can’t remember what right now but I’ll edit it in later.

Stay strong, dear. <3

E

What counts as rape? Someone who I classed as my best friend deliberatly planned to, and did, get me drunk a year or so ago in order to get me to do stuff with him and do stuff to me. I told him all the time that I was gay, and that I didn't want to do it and he "comforted" me and then went back to it and physically forced me to make him orgasm. Because he didn't have sex with me I feel like a fraud when I feel like I've been raped by him.But it still haunts me all the same and I just want some

Anonymous

Rape is defined as the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.

What you endured is classified as sexual assault. Don’t feel like a fraud or anything like that. You have no reason to feel any guilt for anything.

Have you ever spoken with a therapist or anyone about this?

~S